How can counselling help?
Counselling is a unique experience for each client. For many, the fact that counselling offers you the space and freedom to explore your own thoughts with an unbiased party in a confidential environment in is all it takes.
While counsellors may not give you concrete advice or a checklist of things to do to feel better, what they will do is help you uncover your own insight and understanding of your problems providing you with the tools which will help you to resolve them on your own.
In the majority of cases, a single session will not be enough to help overcome any issues you’re facing. Counselling is a journey, and it takes time and consistency to work effectively. Because of this, many people opt for regular counselling sessions to make the most of the process. We usually look at 6 consecutive sessions.
Counselling can help you understand yourself better and the way you think, which will ultimately help you develop a clearer understanding of your problems. The more armed with information you are, the easier it gradually becomes to navigate your way through any difficulties you are facing so that eventually you can come out the other side feeling more positive. Counselling can also help you understand other people’s point of view better, which can shed light onto the way you interpret words or actions.
What to Expect from Counselling
Booking your first session to get help and address the issues you are facing is an important first step and should be commended. Knowing what to expect from a counselling session should help you feel more prepared and less nervous about your first appointment.
In your first session your counsellor will ask you some questions in order to gain an understanding of what’s worrying you and how your thought processes work. All of the information gained in this initial session will be used to help you in future sessions.
Some questions your Counsellor may ask include:
- Why are you seeking counselling?– You will most likely be asked what it is that has brought you here. This is your opportunity to discuss exactly why you are there and what you hope to gain from counselling.
- What is your current situation and personal history?– It is important to let your Counsellor know your current situation; this includes any day-to-day issues you are facing and even your work and home life. Discussing your personal history will give your counsellor a chance to understand more about you as a person and why these issues may have occurred.
- What symptoms are you experiencing?– Whether these are physical or psychological, it is important to discuss any symptoms with your Counsellor.
It is advised that you be honest and open when answering these questions in order to get the most out of your counselling sessions.
During your counselling experience you should aim to build a trusting relationship with your Counsellor so that you feel safe and confident discussing your worries. If for any reason you do not feel comfortable talking about your problems with your Counsellor it is perfectly acceptable to look for another Counsellor.
The Counselling Process
Counselling often requires you to bring up upsetting emotions and painful memories. Bringing up these thoughts can be difficult to start with and, initially, you may feel worse. This process is necessary to move forward and in time, you should start to feel better.
To get the most from your counselling sessions you should aim to make them consistent. Some sessions will feel more helpful than others, but it is important to realise that everything your counsellor is doing is designed to help you in the long run, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the beginning.
It is also worth remembering that counselling is not a quick fix and that your counsellor will not be able to tell you what to do. The counselling process requires a strong relationship between you and your counsellor and a degree of effort on your part – together these two elements create a successful method to help you resolve your issues.